Dear Girlfriend, you are probably surprised to be hearing from me. Or are you? To be honest, I didn’t know I was going to write you until this morning. You see I’ve been friends with Phoenix, your boyfriend and father of your child, for almost as long as you have known him. We have a very strange friendship. Over the years, he has been that good friend that isn’t always in my life but is there when I need him most. He is sexy, intelligent, funny, and easy going. He’s got the biggest chocolate penis I’ve ever seen but then again maybe I should just spare you those details since you clearly know what his private parts look like. Let me be clear about something, this letter is really for YOU. It’s not for Phoenix…for he and I know where we stand. Things I say may come off disrespectful but I promise you, I mean no disrespect. It’s just that since he has been my mistress on and off for 15 years and I’m now being given the chance to be his….I had to write. I’m not in love with Phoenix nor do I want to take him away from you. I’ve seen pictures of you (on Facebook of course) and you are beautiful! Your daughter looks just like you! And while this sounds weird coming from me, you guys make a lovely family! From what I can see, he is an AMAZING father! But every time I ask him if he loves you…he replies that he loves his daughter. Over the years, I’ve been to almost all of Phoenix’s apartments….even before your daughter was born. For the most part, I would visit when you guys were on breaks. Though to be honest, I’m sure somewhere in there…you and I overlap. I tend to only stay for the night and then travel back to whatever state I’ve been living in. Phoenix was okay with me staying but I have always made it clear that I just want him to heal my broken heart for a night and then I’m on my way. Never on any of my trips did I see a picture of you or any remnants of a woman in his apartment…even when he was in graduate school. His place has always been a complete bachelor pad and even though I was never fearful that you would appear in the middle of the night (as nothing around us reminded me of you) I was never able to get a good night sleep next to Phoenix. In my mind, he has always belonged to you. I’m sure by now you are getting frustrated with me and are wondering why I am writing. Chill. Be patient. Actually patience is your problem. I’m trying not to judge but how could you be with a man for over 15 years, give birth to his child, and still just be his live in girlfriend?! Now I don’t know if the institution of marriage will ever be for me but I respect it. You see if you were his wife, I would never consider laying down with Phoenix again. Girl even if you were a fiancé coupled with the fact that you are the mother of his child, you would not be getting this letter…from me. Once again, I’m trying not to judge but how could girlfriend or baby mama (I cringe just writing that) be enough for a woman who loves herself?! It’s one thing if both parties do not believe in marriage but I get the feeling you do. I think you have been patiently waiting, since the birth of your daughter, for Phoenix to propose. Well it’s 2016 and he just told me…he has no plans to ever propose! Ouch I feel it for you! But then it crossed my mind that you just may know that he is not in love with you but just doesn’t want another man to raise his child. It occurred to me that you go to bed at night well aware of your situation but you settled. Now I know what you are thinking….how do I know that Phoenix isn’t lying to me?! First off, he and I have always been honest with each other because we are so similar in so many ways. I don’t have to pretend like I don’t got a man when I go see him. Second, Phoenix is well aware that if after seeing each other on and off for 15 years and I never stayed with him…I won’t. He got into this knowing my heart would always live elsewhere. One time, shortly after your daughter was born and while you guys were definitely broken up, Phoenix and I tried to give the relationship a chance. He was ride or die for me while I was facing the final challenges of my professional career. Phoenix held me down and I really appreciate him for that. He was there when my first love, Julio, was too selfish to be. I appreciate your man and clearly I respect him if I’m hesitating to join him in destroying his family. I’m sure by now you are wondering why I haven’t made the trip to your state and fucked your man? I’ve a few reasons why I haven’t: 4. My siblings, Junior and Brenda, aren’t about this life. I’ve been so reformed in loving and being with just one man (Elijah) and if I dip during our hard times and let Phoenix sample this good good pussy, I may never be able to be faithful…even in marriage and that scares me. 3. I do love Elijah. 2. I don’t want the karma from this affair. And my number 1 reason for writing and not agreeing to see Phoenix is…your daughter. You see I grew up around lots of domestic violence and infidelity. I make no excuses for my past mistakes but my childhood has a lot to do with the way I view love, marriage, and fidelity. Know that I would never want to put your daughter through any of that. I want her growing up believing in love and marriage. Parents sometimes forget that when you cheat on your spouse, you destroy your children in the process. I don’t think this has occurred to Phoenix because I know if it had, he would never be open to our affair. And I know he would not intentionally do anything to hurt his child. I’ve more experience in this area than he does…both as a child growing up around infidelity and now a grown adult that’s jaded. I don’t want that for your daughter. It is thoughts of her that makes me write you. Thoughts of her happiness that makes me stop in my tracks and wake up to what I was about to do. Question though…why hasn’t thoughts of your daughter inspired you to be more than a girlfriend/baby mama? Why doesn’t your love for her…increase your love for yourself?! Why haven’t you told Phoenix that he is a damn good father but if he isn’t trying to be a loving husband to you….you both must part ways except for when taking care of your child. I know you love him. You have to….you have been hanging in there for 15 years! Some of those years you were probably young and dumb but now you are a mother. What’s your excuse now? If you are patiently waiting for his love for you to return…you are going about this all wrong. From looking at your pictures, you seem sweet and caring. A professional man like Phoenix love challenges. I’m a tiger in everything I do especially in both my careers! I hustle hard and I make no apologies about how aggressive I can be when I’m going after a goal. I’m not afraid to leave nor lose a man. I’ve protected my womb and hope to only share a child with my future husband or have no child at all as I live as a happy single. No one knows what the future holds but a man like Phoenix knows that I patiently wait for no man but God. Now here’s where I get a little graphic. Before I let you go, I’ve to paint a picture so you really and truly understand how dire the situation is. Stop patiently waiting in life and in bed. Phoenix likes to be challenged. From his pulling my hair to him slapping my ass to him getting turned on when I pretend to almost call him another man’s name while I climax…Phoenix is a freak. He has been my sexual teacher. I’m not sure if sex really is your issue because he actually never bad mouths you to me. As a matter of fact, he doesn’t talk about you at all! Learn to be memorable and not a doormat who may have been easily forgotten had it not been for other life circumstances. Cheer your man on but don’t forget to let him know that he has to work for you! I may not be a wife but I’ve had 3 chances to be married so far in life and I’ve turned them all down. I could be married in 6 months if I wanted to. Men do love bad girls! My motto in life is I’m a good woman when I meet a good man until then…I’m a bad girl for life. The type that sat on your man’s face and isn’t afraid to play rough with him. I….patiently…wait…for…no…man. And if I want something I take it! Whatever your issues are…get couples’ counseling and see if you can make it work for the sake of you, Phoenix, and your daughter. There may be real love there but love is not much without work. I’m going to leave Phoenix alone for now but just know that there will be others! They may not write nor will they give a damn about the title girlfriend. Some hoes don’t give a damn about the title wife but if she has the ability to be a good woman, the word wife will stop her in her tracks! Wife is the goal here! Aim high! And if Elijah and I don’t work out, I may swing back around to see if you have been upgraded. Let me leave you with some words of wisdom (also known as the song I will strip to for YOUR man if you are still just a girlfriend in a year or two): “I was runnin’ through the 6 with my woes Yeah! I was runnin’ through the 6 with my woes You know how that should go You know how that should go You know how that should go Runnin’ through the 6 with my woes You know how that should go You know how that should go You know how that should go” Know Yourself by Drake! ~KJM on Hump Day saying girlfriends get your credentials up or no woman that isn’t your family member nor friend will respect you. If you are not a wife, your man is always up for grabs! 

I found this meme on Pinterest and fell deep in love with it. Why were we ever chasing Prince Charming?! The Wolf has so much more to offer! Moral of the story here is who you will  eventually love to the brink of madness will almost never be the person you dreamt up in your mind nor the person society expects. The Wolf is real while Prince Charming is who we try to get our men to be like. So fall in love with your very own Wolf and you will be his hors d’oeuvre, main course, and his dessert! Yum? ~KJM on Charm School Monday dropping knowledge as I learn them?

It felt like parts of me had died these last couple days and I just wanted to stop writing. If I could no longer inspire you…why write? Willow told me that I don’t have the luxury of taking time off. The most she was giving me was a week because I’ve “God given talent.” Her words…not mine. Willow and Jael’s mother, Nicole, have encouraged me the most to start this blog and keep it going. One of them usually lights a fire under me when I want to give up. But sometimes I just get so disappointed in how my story is turning out. I’ve been in bed for two days now…unable to move. I’m writing this fucking blog in my pajamas and looking like I gave up on life. That’s how broken I feel. I love Elijah a lot. More than I ever thought I could love a man after suffering heartbreak from the ex factor. But Elijah rips everything I do apart. We argue over the smallest things because we are both fighting for control. Some of the negative things he’s done reminds me of Julio and the ex factor. I don’t know if it’s our past or if we are just temporarily having a miscommunication but he’s left me feeling…emotionally neglected. I’ve spent 5 years and 3 months loving a boy (the ex factor) that could not and would not love me. If there’s anything I’ve learned from that painful experience is I don’t want to spend five minutes in a relationship where real love and trust cannot exist. So as I laid in bed…sick and feeling like the world was laying on my shoulders…I did what I had not done in 1.5 years….I text Phoenix, my ex lover and friend wrapped up in the shape and form of a soulmate from another lifetime. The iPhone is a weird yet magical phone. When I got my first 6 back in July, it did not have memory of Phoenix’s deleted number. However, when that phone malfunctioned and I got another 6 in September, Phoenix’s number magically appeared. I never dared to use it though. He’s always been there to hold me when I break things off with Julio, the ex factor, or who ever else is stomping on my heart. But my final break up with the ex factor, I did it all on my own. I loved the ex factor until he himself had sucked all the love out of my heart. No man took me away from him. He destroyed us. Once I started dating Elijah, I didn’t think I would ever need Phoenix’s number again. But there I was in bed…texting Phoenix. I didn’t think for a second that he would respond. By now I figured he would be engaged to his daughter’s mother. I knew how important it was for him to be an active father and the last time I saw him in September 2014…he was just that. Didn’t think he would respond but he did right away and knew who he was talking to. I will say it again…I’m in love with Elijah but when I’m emotionally abandoned…the old me comes out. Alone is my comfort zone so it’s not that I can’t be alone. However, alone in love brings me to a level of vulnerability that I’m terrified of. Phoenix knows me well enough to know I would only reach out if my heart was in trouble. Sexy, intelligent, ambitious, and easy to talk to…Phoenix is every woman’s dream. From his dark chocolate skin to his pearly white teeth to his huge big black penis…I’m not sure how I never caught real feelings for Phoenix. He has been my mistress since 2004 on and off. From the day I first laid eyes on him in a Red Lobster in Maryland…Phoenix has always taken my breath away. The thing is though…even when he was 18 and I was 22, I always felt that we belonged with different people but he was my best kept secret. Always there to catch me mid climax and make me feel like I was flying. That’s what just one text from Phoenix does for me. He is my drug of choice. I can crave him, taste him, drink him, and lay in his arms after any hurt feelings between me and a current or ex suitor. He’s one of only two guys I feel completely comfortable with sexually! If there is something I don’t know how to do…he teaches me and is so patient with me. I’ve put on weight over the years and grew slightly insecure when I got hurt in love…but when I’m with Phoenix…none of that matters. I am beautiful and I am to be worshipped. Even if it’s just for a night, Phoenix subscribes to the church of Kingston and there’s nothing he would not do to take me to Mecca….with his dick. That’s Phoenix baby! Still a question lingers in my mind….even though he is not married, Phoenix is spoken for (and probably always been)….can I really openly sign up to be his mistress the way he has been mine over the years? Stay tuned for Phoenix’s rising…~KJM on Serenity Saturday saying I so desperately need to be wanted and worshipped.

It’s Serenity Saturday and while I don’t typically write a new blog on Saturdays, this one has been heavy on my heart and a long time coming. Many of us get trapped in pseudo relationships and after they are long over, the exes feel the need to check in on us…frequently. What they are doing is putting us on pause in hopes of finding something better. If they don’t find anything better, they will be back to profess their love and/or care (for the assholes who can’t say the word love) and decide to try to ruin our lives one last time! Unfortunately, there is no one type of man that uses the pause button. Yesterday I discussed Julio and today I will discuss the ex factor. They are like apples and oranges but they both used the pause button on me. Now let me be clear on this. I’m not bitter. I’m actually in a happy place. Elijah is a grown man who can say he loves me and has already said it. I’m just a little frustrated when the resilient cockroaches (Julio) and sewer rats (the ex factor) resurface when no one asked them to! Contrary to popular belief, we women can put an end to the pause button. We essentially control it. However, part of the mind game of these exes is to make you think they control it. So not true! Okay…on to part 2! The ex factor is a sneaky kind of sewer rat. At first glance, he looks and acts perfect unlike Julio where you can see his flaws miles away. Time to take a journey with me into the Pause Button Part 2. Here are the 12 things I want to warn the ex factor’s future ex girlfriend about:

12. HE IS A GORGEOUS MAN WHO WILL PRETEND TO BE THE QUIET BOY NEXT DOOR! When I met the ex factor, he was the tender age of 20. He had been in some relationships and appeared to be all about commitment. It wasn’t until we were 3.5 months in and I got a job in DC did he lay it on me that he did not want a serious relationship! I was already in love with him (to my surprise) so I stayed with him. For the next 5 years we would be on and off again as I moved for my career. With no solid commitment from him, I married my career. Had I known from the jump that he did not want a serious commitment, I would not have gone on the first date with him. Moral here: his innocent boy next door act can only be held up for so long. Here lies a cheater and a deceiver with a coy smile. Girlfriend don’t fall for it! Only good thing about this experience is the day Elijah introduced himself to me (3 weeks before I dumped the ex factor for good), I tackled the commitment question right away. If he wasn’t open to commitment, I wouldn’t be dating him now! We women have to learn from our previous mistakes and grow from it!

11. THE EX FACTOR IS A FOLLOWER AND NOT A LEADER! Whether he was in his early, mid, or late 20s, the ex factor only does the things his “boys” do. He doesn’t have a mind of his own. So if his boys don’t approve it, know that it won’t happen. I know part of this is growing pains because he was so young but that dude is soon to be rounding 30 and still thinks the way he does when he was 20. It won’t occur to him that everyone else was growing while he was being a child until all his friends are happily married.

10. YOU WILL PROBABLY NEVER MEET HIS FAMILY! From my experience, the ex factor has never introduced a girl to his parents. This happened even with girls before me. Now I know what you are thinking…maybe he will only introduce his wife to be to them. And while that’s quite possible, you my dear future ex girlfriend have very slim odds of meeting his family! The ex factor has some weird close yet distant relationship with his family. He says he’s very close to them (as he still lives at home with them) but they know nothing about his life. His words not mine. I often wondered if he was some type of serial killer. The thought has been ruled out because I’ve been told time and time again that he is not smart enough to be a serial killer. Hmmm…that brings me to the next one.

9. THE EX FACTOR IS NOT INTELLIGENT! While he has a college degree, this is not the type of man you can talk philosophy, politics, and religion with. Just stay focused on his goods looks and fuck his brains out. There will never be anyone home upstairs!?? I stayed because I generally like a mute man. Quiet and intelligent are my type though…not dumb and mindless!

8. EVERYTHING WILL BE MORE IMPORTANT THAN YOU! Part of his way of putting women down is to make them feel like an option not a priority. When he’s spending time with you, he will be staring at his phone. He will text while you guys are at dinner (the few times he takes you out…that is) and will ultimately look bored. If anyone calls him, he’s gone! It could be the grand opening of the Pizza Hut near his house, he will dump you for it. Late night basketball games with friends and all family events will take priority in his life. The life he will never share with you that is.

7. THE EX FACTOR IS SELFISH IN BED! I use to think we had an awesome sex life until I started to compare it to past partners and Elijah. In 5 years and 3 months, the ex factor made me climax once. The one thing I will give Julio was he knew I wasn’t cuming over the years, would discuss it with me, and then get frustrated by it. Julio knew he wasn’t doing a good job (I guess I did too as I always had to leave him for a better sexual partner). If you have a list of favorite sexual acts, I promise you that the ex factor only does one. He has a big dick and can last long sexually but he will make you do ALL the work. The ex factor will never focus on pleasing you. He will get his and leave you wanting someone else!

6. THE EX FACTOR IS SPITEFUL! He agreed to our taking a break (which I knew was a forever break) when I suggested it. He played it cool when I asked for space. Yet 5 weeks later he was texting me like we never broke up! I guess I shouldn’t be surprised because one of his tactics when I was broken up with him for 2 years and living in Richmond was to keep texting me and even left me a voicemail to go around my blocking him on my iPhone. The ex factor does not like to be ignored! Well he’s blocked again and I will never listen to any voicemail he leaves! ✌? Not only that…he’s been fucking with my little sister on social networks by unfriending and refriending her. Dude, she has nothing to do with my decisions. Furthermore, I show your little sister the utmost respect. Please do the same for mine!

5. THE EX FACTOR GIVES BLANKET APOLOGIES! This man will treat you like shit, make you feel like the scum of the earth, and never see anything wrong with his behavior. There were many times I would tell him that I didn’t like the way he treated me and he would respond in one of two ways: (a) I think I treat you great or (b) I already apologized for whatever you are mad at! This boy accepts no responsibility for his actions and words. It takes a grown man to admit he did wrong and grow from it. The ex factor is NOT a grown man. He will stay a boy with that mentality. What I’ve learned is that sorry don’t mean shit. Actions do!

4. EVERYTHING WILL ALWAYS BE YOUR FAULT! Well since he can’t accept responsibility for anything, whose fault do you think it will be that the relationship isn’t working out?! That’s right baby girl…YOURS! You will be the reason for all the unhappiness you feel and all his annoyances. The ex factor will leave you out there every time…making you believe that you are less than a person and are lucky he even deals with you! Get out now! Save your self esteem some blows!

3. THE EX FACTOR LIES THROUGH OMISSION! This man will YES you and your family (if you let him meet anyone that is) to death. He wants to be likable but he’s really just a con artist. Don’t trust a word that comes out of his mouth!

2. HE CAN’T BE FAITHFUL! The ex factor and I may have not been officially boyfriend and girlfriend (I’m so embarrassed I let him treat me this way) but he did pledge monogamy and honesty to me. My gut told me over the years that he never kept not one of those promises. Lie after lie, I realized that this deceiver won’t ever change. Good thing I wasn’t all about him during this on and off again mess of a situationship!

1. HE ONLY LOVES WOMEN WHO TREAT HIM BADLY! When the ex factor was in high school, he had two male best friends. His “first love” also went to high school with all of them. Four months into dating him (on one of my weekend trips home from DC), the ex factor told me that he found out from one of his best friends that his “first love” had slept with the other best friend repeatedly behind the ex factor’s back. Did I mention he never got to sleep with this alleged “first love?” He would go on to chase this girl in a way he will never chase you. According to him, she really loves him but made a mistake! Yea repeatedly fucking your best friend sounds like true love to me! To this day…I bet he is still trying to get her ugly ass back (as in a relationship)! I think they actually deserve each other. The ex factor should never be with a faithful woman. And we all know it takes a special kind of hoe to sleep with the homies! ?? Best wishes boo ? ~KJM on Serenity Saturday saying I had to “relax, relate, and release” after writing this blog! “It’s A Different World Form Where You Come From!”

I hate that I’ve to write this blog but truth be told it’s a long time coming. Earlier this week, Julio called me and told me off in the most malicious way. I’ve known him for 19 years but we haven’t seriously dated since 2007! He was upset because I’m dating Elijah and I’m happy! Praise Jesus?? No matter what Elijah and I go through…from the jump he’s been different from the rest. He’s on his grown man status and I love it (though it’s taken some getting use to after only dealing with boys)! After thinking about our conversation and speaking with people who know me well…I’ve now blocked Julio. He is no longer welcomed to call nor text me. There’s a new sheriff in town and Julio…it just ain’t you! Julio is angry that for years he hit the pause button on me to find something better and never did! I stopped truly loving him almost 10 years ago and never looked back. Once I fell for the ex factor, Julio’s love coffin was officially sealed. I think because I’ve finally gotten rid of the ex factor, Julio thought he could come back. But Julio for real though…do you think you are that important in my life that I would ever consider being with you again?! Fuck NO! We dated for 10 years (on and off again) where I suffered a lot of emotional abuse from you. There is no way I would want such a man to be my husband and the father of my children. Since you can’t get past your own fucking ego, I’m putting it all in writing. I’m letting the world know you ain’t shit and I’m no longer trying to be a cordial friend. You fell and bumped your head on Tuesday night and that will be the last time I let you disrespect me! Before I go though, I want to warn any woman who will date you in the future (since you are now bitterly single). Here are the 10 Things I want Julio’s future ex girlfriend to know about him:

10. JULIO IS SHORT IN SO MANY WAYS! I’m 5’7 and I doubt Julio is even 5’3. He hates his height and his body so if you are taller than him and love your body, you are going to pay! He will always have something nasty to say to you…even while dating him. Julio has a long list of insecurities and he will spend what feels like a lifetime (19 years and I can’t fucking get rid of him) bringing you down!

9. JULIO IS SELFISH IN BED! This man has such a huge ego for such a small person. Yes he was my first and I hate that I’ve to expose him like this but in our over 10 years of sexual history, he’s never made me climax. I mean…he was never even close! So if you like not cuming and forever only satisfying his needs….Julio is the midget for you!

8. JULIO IS A MAMA’S BOY! Mama still warms up his spoiled rotten breast milk and it shows. This is one of the main reasons why he can’t keep a good woman. No one is like his mama…and if you have any fucking sense…you don’t want to be. This man thinks he is a god and that he is entitled to everything he never worked for.

7. LONG AFTER YOU BREAKUP THIS SICK SON OF A BITCH WILL STILL THINK HE IS ENTITLED TO YOUR HEART AND YOUR BODY! Julio, when standing completely straight does not even come up to where my heart is. So why on God’s green earth does he still think I should love him? I’ve known him for 19 years and he’s been an asshole for 18 of those years! Who the fuck worships an asshole just because he’s been around a long time?! Well cockroaches are hard to get rid of too…and ain’t nobody throwing a party for them! Need I remind you, I was hugely sexually dissatisfied with Julio’s dick game so why again should he be memorable?! Fuck out of here!

6. JULIO WILL PRETEND TO BE YOUR FRIEND LONG AFTER THE BREAKUP ONLY TO TRY TO SABOTAGE EVERY RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE AFTER HIM! I don’t know if I’m the only ex he calls up all the damn time and fucks with…but there is a great chance he will do it to you too! If you are wondering why I’ve kept in touch with him all these years…it’s because after I fell out of love for him…I treated Julio like a long distance cousin. If he were to get married tomorrow, I would feel nothing. As a matter of fact, that pisses him off! I’ve encouraged him to get married and work out every relationship he’s been in since we have been pseudo friends. I allowed him to check in on me once or twice a year because who has a problem with their long distance cousin doing that?!

5. JULIO WILL NEVER SUPPORT YOU ON ANYTHING! I’ve always been crazy intelligent and gone to amazing schools. This has been an issue for Julio from the jump. He really needs a bitch that don’t know how to read and write! Because of my intelligence, degrees, and ambitions, Julio never treated me well. He has always felt and acted inferior to me. If you think I’m making that up….over the years he has expressed these feelings but continuously asking me if I think he is smart?! While Julio is on his second masters degree, and I’ve attained the highest degree I can in my field, I’ve always been happy for him. Yet he has never been happy for me. News flash Julio…all the degrees in the world won’t change that you are an insecure asshole! Might want to get that printed on your second masters degree! ??

4. JULIO WILL TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT! While I’ve never known him to be a cheater (it’s hard for short men to have game), he will verbally and emotionally bring you down in and out of your relationship. Julio will put everyone in front of you and make you feel like you are not worthy! But I’m here to tell you…you are worthy! Julio’s biggest issue is with himself. You deserve so much more! Don’t allow him to put you down and then accuse you of having low self esteem! Tell Julio to fuck off!??

3. JULIO WILL CALL YOU A SLUT! If you aren’t sleeping with him, Julio will accuse you of being a whore. I have a small amount of sex partners (not sure why this is even a concern for Julio as he hasn’t seen the fuzz on my kitty kat since January 2010…pre ex factor) yet at the end of our Tuesday night conversation he intelligently called me a low self esteem nymphomaniac slut! He was so mad that I’m intimate with Elijah and wondered how I could choose Elijah over him. Dude, we haven’t seriously dated since 2007. While there are a long list of wonderful attributes about Elijah, I’m going to stoop down to Julio’s level and hit him with only one…Elijah’s dick action alone can blow every memory of you out my mind! ?? Long live King Big Dick! ??

2. JULIO WILL NEVER COMPLETELY GO AWAY UNLESS YOU DRAW A LINE! This cockroach will always creep up in the corner of your kitchen no matter how many times you call the exterminator. You have to completely cut him off and draw a solid line in order to find your own happiness! Julio is bitter and will always want you to be bitter. I tried and tried to find some good in him but failed. Girl when it’s your turn…learn from me. Run! Don’t allow him to call and befriend you!

1. JULIO IS AN EX FOR A REASON! After he hung up on me Tuesday night (yes the motherfucker did), I realized I was right to never consider marrying him nor having his children. Julio is the type of man I regret ever meeting. All the years I was with him, I felt alone and unsupported. There was never two solid days I could count on him as a lover nor friend in 19 years! Even when I got into professional school, how he congratulated me was by breaking up with me. This is the boy I met when I was 15 and he was 16. He’s still that boy today at 35! I wish I could take back my virginity and give him back his! Julio, I am God’s child! I am only HIS! If you are not God nor Papa Michaels, I was never your property. You are an ex for a reason and you have lived out your season! Please do not keep in touch✌?️ ~KJM on Flashback Friday saying to all the women out there….never let a boy press the pause button on you…thinking he can come back whenever he feels like. Move forward and love with all your heart. Never let the trash continue to stink up your home!