Happy Charm School Monday! Get your paper and pen ready because we are boldly going where few have gone…into the life and times of the Alpha Female! Let’s get started on some myths and truths! MYTH 10: THE ALPHA FEMALE DOES NOT EXIST! Well she sure does! I am living proof that she is not a myth. The Alpha Female is alive and well! Breathing life and conquering the world with every move she makes! MYTH 9: THE ALPHA FEMALE CAN ONLY BE CREATED BY ANOTHER ALPHA FEMALE! The Alpha Female is a survivor! She can be created out of necessity! A higher force drives her. She may be born in burnt ashes and still rise!?? This Alpha Female, however, was created by an Alpha Male, Papa Michaels! He has always supported and encouraged me to be a tiger at all I do! And he loved me from the moment he found out I was a girl…never wishing I was a boy! Love you Daddy!? MYTH 8: THE ALPHA FEMALE HAS NO DESIRE TO BE MARRIED NOR HAVE CHILDREN! Each woman, Alpha Female or not, has her own plan in life. A husband and children does not hold the Alpha Female back. They may very well be part of her divine plan. The point is…it is HER plan and she can write her story however she wants to!?? MYTH 7: THE ALPHA FEMALE IS A LESBIAN! Um…definitely not. We can be straight, lesbians, or just straight up have no desire to be identified as any gender! It’s our natural born given right to define ourselves how we see fit…not how society sees us!?? MYTH 6: IF THE ALPHA FEMALE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN, SHE MUST DOMINATE HIM! Sigh…this one really gets us into trouble. Most married Alpha Females that I know are a dominant force in their careers but tread lightly in their marriage. However, they are not weak in marriage! Far from it! But they have learned the hard way that emasculating a man they have sworn to love isn’t about being an Alpha Female…it’s about being a control freak! Unless she wants to end up divorced, the Alpha Female uses her strength and power to build up her husband and children without dimming her own light! Love should never be about control. And truth be told, the essence of the Alpha Female is not about control either! It’s about her right to be a great force in her own life! She is the ruler of her own destiny! MYTH 5: THE ALPHA FEMALE LOVES TO CUT A MAN’S BALLS OFF! True Alpha Females may accidentally emasculate a man in work or love. Fake alpha females will walk around talking about they run shit and they give true Alpha Females a bad name! Run yourself… A true Alpha Female does not have to beat her chest to prove a point! She moves with strength silently so that no one sees her coming. Even her love is full of strength! The Alpha Female is built to be the equal partner of her spouse! If he falls or has a hard day, they won’t have to worry about much because she’s got him! ?? Plus you know balls confuse some of us (like me), so until we figure out what to do with them…we would prefer that our men have theirs in tact!? MYTH 4: THE ALPHA FEMALE DOES NOT FEEL LIKE SHE NEEDS ANYONE! Now not even the Alpha Male can survive this life alone. Like the Alpha Male….the Alpha Female needs love, family, friendship, and a full life. The thing with her is if life didn’t hand her all of these things…she continues to thrive…and work towards her true destiny and purpose while creating her own opportunities along the way. The Alpha Female’s wants and needs with always be fulfilled because she is at the center of her own universe! Her needs do not fall to the wayside as she takes on other responsibilities and grows in love and life. The Alpha Female is a balanced woman. There’s nothing she cannot do when she puts her mind to it! MYTH 3: THE ALPHA FEMALE IS A PROVIDER! For the most part, this myth is true! The Alpha Female’s ability to take care of herself will always be her driving force to reach higher in life! She’s unstoppable! Essentially she sets herself up in a way, where if she is falling…she can catch her damn self!?? MYTH 2: THE ALPHA FEMALE HATES OTHER WOMEN! The Alpha Female is a mentor! She is a lover of all women. If she sees one trying to advance in their career…she should make herself available to guide, answers questions, and give a listening ear to any woman who may need her help! There’s really enough room for us all to live in this world. So if you spot a woman who is successful yet petty and spiteful…she is a fake alpha female! Being an Alpha Female takes more than being successful in your career and in life…it takes setting the stage for up and coming Alpha Females!?? MYTH 1: THE BEST PARTNER FOR THE ALPHA FEMALE IS AN ALPHA MALE! I beg to differ…the best mate for me (the Ex Factor) thus far is not an Alpha Male. He’s laid back yet strong. He is my polar opposite, in a good way, that balances me out. While I have dated a lot of fake alpha males (Julio and Elijah for sure) and may not know much about this particular topic, I think real Alpha Males may not pair well with real Alpha Females! I can’t see a lion and a tiger in a cage making out very well! Now I am not saying that there aren’t Alpha Males and Females paired off together successfully! It is very possible that this combination works for some. As for me, I need the balance. A silently strong man who picks and chooses his battles wisely as he loves and cares for me…is where I feel at peace the best. The greatest words the Ex Factor ever said to me were…“I am not trying to change you!” And so I let out a sigh of relief and continued on with our lives.? ~KJM on Charm School Monday saying whether you are an Alpha Female or not…make sure you are the master of your own destiny! Life is too short to be lead astray by this world?