They say if you go to bed at night with your pride only…it will be a lonely life! ?There’s probably a whole lot of truth in this saying. Pride and I have been close friends for years and I attribute most of my failed relationships to pride interfering at times I should have just spoken from the heart. There’s something so “prideful” (for lack of a better word) about not wanting to take responsibility for our own actions, say we are sorry to someone, and work on ourselves. It’s just so much more easier to point blame on others and always think they are the problem! ? I am definitely guilty of this at times and am still a work in progress. My wake up call came when I saw strong women around me succumb to their pride and bad relationship advice from friends who could not “lead a horse to water!” ? There’s an epidemic going around and it’s called “The Need To Always Be Right.” ? Some folks will live for a 100 years and spend all those decades blaming others for their misfortunes and not learn a damn thing about life and love! Now I’m not saying that people do not sometimes hurt us or a situation cannot be more someone else’s fault than our own but truth be told there are very few situations in life where we are not partly to blame for whatever negative outcome was achieved. Matter of fact…taking responsibility for our part not only shows growth but gives us some sense of control over our lives by us acknowledging…it happened…I have accepted responsibility…and I aim to learn from my past mistakes! ?? Read that line over again! Because it’s just that deep! When we play victim to others and our circumstances, we leave ourselves wide open to feel victimize and be victimize by everyone and everything we come in contact with! It’s like life is just happening to us! We aren’t really living life! ? We are just sitting on the sideline of our own lives! Let that last line linger in your mind for a minute. We are just sitting on the sideline of our lives?! What type of life is that? Not just a lonely life but a truly misguided life. Is having the last word in an argument or shutting someone you love out of your life because you cannot bring yourself to do the work…the long overdue work on the core of who you are as a person…worth it? There’s so much that will be lost in translation…when we hold on to our need to always be right. I know pride can be tempting. Pride is sexy at first. Caresses us in all the places we haven’t been touched in a long while. Pride strokes our egos while whispering sweet nothings in our ears. And right after we climax…off of pride…we slowly start to realize we are all alone. Well…that’s only if we are just going to bed with pride for the first time! Those of us fully engrossed in an affair with pride may never realize how broken we are and how that brokenness has isolated us. This is what happens when we have a stronger need to be right than we do…to be righteous within ourselves! ?? ~KJM on Temptation Tuesday!