Now before you read any further…let me warn you that this blog will be a spoiler for anyone who hasn’t seen the movie FENCES! If you have seen it or you weren’t planning to…keep reading. On Sunday, I finally got the chance to see the movie Fences with my family. Even though I had seen the commercials, I had no clue what the movie was about. The premise is “some people build fences to keep people in.” Viola Davis’ character is married to Denzel Washington’s character for 18 years when he has a extramarital affair and fathers a child she ends up having to raise! ? EIGHTEEN YEARS and that’s when he decides to cheat! ? Not saying there is ever a good time to cheat but if he spent almost 20 years happily married…he sure could have kept his dick to himself for eternity! ?? To add insult to injury, fool wasn’t even wearing condoms! ? In the movie, Viola Davis’ character (with strength) holds her family down and decides to help raise his illegitimate child…a child that was created in her marriage! ? I can’t breathe thinking about it! I just do not know if I would have the courage to stick with my cheating husband and the mess he created! But I do agree with her reason for raising the little girl…babies are innocent. They have nothing to do with the affairs we adults get ourselves into! ?? My heart still hurts for her character though! Woosa! Let me just catch my breath before I get into how this ties in with today’s blog. Woosa! Still trying to catch my breath while stopping myself from going through the television and slapping the hell out of Denzel’s character! Woosa! ?? Okay back to earth with my breath calm. With all the things I have witnessed in real life and movies…I have made myself out to not be the Marrying kind. Like why risk my heart and my soul plus brush pass the prison system (I am no easy woman) to be with a love that has a great chance of deceiving me for a lifetime? Why bother? Why try? Men and women in today’s society cheat in their marriages like it’s nothing but statistics seem to show that there’s a greater chance of our men cheating on us…and us finding out. ? Men may be more tempted to cheat but from where I am standing….we women are more savvy with it…hence the least likely chance of us getting caught unless there is a baby involved! ? But even then…there’s a lot of men raising children that ain’t theirs! That’s how slick we women are! But I digress! Back to the dirty male dogs. For you married folks, why did you risk the odds that you could get hurt? You aren’t blind and I am sure we all got folks in our family that cheated easily and then walked right back into their marital bed like it was nothing! ? Matter of fact….we all know folks who CHEATED IN THEIR MARITAL BED!? And most of us have been cheated on in our lifetime! Plus we have also cheated. I’m no angel but I keep telling y’all that I don’t play with marriage. Even if I’m not the Marrying kind…I have no plans of fucking with some woman’s husband! ?? If he’s trouble for her…he damn sure will be trouble for me! ?? And y’all know I’m reformed from the boyfriend stealing business since 2014! ? Well I never really stole. Just took Phoenix off of a shelf, played with him, and then put him back on the same shelf…not caring who nor what he belonged too. But I digress again! ? “When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.” 1 Corinthians 13 Ch 11. I have grown so much. And through that growth I’ve realized that I cannot control the other person. The Ex Factor wants to run the streets…so I opened up the door for him to get out while patiently awaiting BOAZ. ?? Even with my strong belief in marriage, I vowed not to be the Marrying kind so that I never have to worry about my husband cheating on me and breaking up our family. Why risk our hearts, minds, and souls along with our peace when we cannot be sure we found a good man? Is marriage really worth the risk? ~KJM is full of questions on Hump Day. My heart needs answers…
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