This week I have guided you through dating and love but forgot to mention one important thing. The death of all that could be great starts with our insecurities. There are insecurities others place on us…I find these to be damaging but easier to heal…and then there are the insecurities we place on ourselves…I find these to be downright destructive and almost irreparable without some serious work on ourselves. You see…the latter are the ugly narratives we tell ourselves. Stories of feeling unworthy of all the great things life has to offer. These untrue stories rob us of love, happiness, and joy…for to receive those things in life…the first step is to feel worthy of them. Perhaps the greatest tragedy insecurities give birth to…is ripping from us the gift of being loved for who we are…the joy of others seeing our flaws and yet loving us anyway. When you say ‘I am not worthy’ the universe repays you with those same sentiments. How so? You see…if you are insecure then you cannot trust…not even in yourself. And if you can’t trust…there is no way you can love and be loved! Doubts whisper in your ears frequently until you are barren of all that is good, kind, and true. And what are you left with? Your insecurities of course! To find happiness, we must believe we are worthy and demand all that is great. Mistakes with happen. Self doubt will occur but we, those that are worthy, must find a way to forgive ourselves, understand that we are human, and move forward with love and peace in our hearts. Self love is the birth of all things insecurities attempt to murder. If you can trust in yourself then you can trust in your choices. So what if you loved and got hurt? Hearts are stronger than that! They still beat for love and life despite the pain. So what if you lost yourself for a period of time? All that matters is you found yourself. If you ignore all else that I say…remember this…you cannot love a man truly, openly, and honestly if you are insecure. You will create problems that don’t exist and bring yourself into a deeper level of despair than he ever could bring you. You will search for a monster in the night anticipating that he will harm you when in fact you are destroying yourself. You must be secure in your love for self and in your love for others…no matter the outcome…for only fools try to control love. And I should know better than anyone for I was a fool once. Great loves take great risks. Great risks must be taken without any guarantee of a reward. Love freely and trust that you are worthy of all things great and the universe will respond in kind. ? ~KJM on Flashback Friday. Either trust yourself to trust that man or leave that man alone. ?
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