Today I’m starting a monthly series called “Awaiting BOAZ.” At least once a month, I will write my future BOAZ. Now I don’t know how long GOD has me waiting so I could be writing him for months, a year, or years. I may even give up at times…but don’t you dare give up on me. This journey will not be an easy one but I’m worth it! If you are single (as in non married) please follow this series on my self hosted site (www.kingstonjaelmichaels.com) or at my Kingston Jael Michaels Facebook page. Even if you are married and want to lend your support, please also follow along closely. Now for those of you who are not familiar with BOAZ, I’ve copied and pasted the Wiki Summary to get you all up to speed: “Son of Rahab and Salmon, Boaz was a wealthy landowner of Bethlehem, and kinsman of Elimelech, Naomi’s late husband. He noticed Ruth, the widowed Moabite daughter-in-law of Naomi, a relative of his (see family tree), gleaning grain in his fields. He soon learns of the difficult circumstances her family is in and Ruth’s loyalty to Naomi. In response, Boaz invites her to eat with him and his workers, as well as deliberately leaving grain for her to claim while keeping a protective eye on her. Ruth approaches Boaz and asks him to exercise his right of kinship and marry her. Boaz accepts, provided that another with a superior claim declines. Since the first son of Ruth and a kinsman of her late husband would be deemed the legal offspring of the decedent and heir to Elimelech, the other kinsman defers to Boaz. In marrying Ruth, Boaz revives Elimelech’s lineage, and the patrimony is secured to Naomi’s family. For those substituting, redeeming factors, Ruth’s husband is considered by some Christians to be a type of Jesus. Their son was Obed, father of Jesse, and grandfather of David. Boaz is mentioned in both the Gospel of Matthew and the Gospel of Luke as an ancestor of Jesus.“ Now even if you are not a religious/spiritual person…the wait for BOAZ (or the female version for the men) can still be a significant one! I consider this journey to be a personal AND spiritual one. If you feel lost in the dating world or feel like you are dating the wrong person…await BOAZ with me!!! I definitely cannot do this journey by myself so let’s walk hand in hand. Please feel free to write me publicly or privately about your own journeys! Now to how I got here…in 2016, two guys told me they loved me: Elijah in January and the Ex Factor in May. I don’t think either one has a clue what true and everlasting love is about and I’m not even mad. I easily let them go because I knew they were not BOAZ! And with doing that, I’ve freed myself up for my BOAZ! Meeting a man has never been an issue for me and finding one that wants to marry me has been easy. You see I’ve never been the type of woman easily moved by a man’s words. A man…is just a man. I’m never hot and bothered for one. With that being said, why has BOAZ escaped me in my 20 years of dating? Here are 4 reasons I believe BOAZ has not found me: 4. BOAZ was not initially part of my life plan. I’ve been living in a me, myself, and I world until I turned 34. 3. While I believe in marriage, I’ve never really believed it was the path for me. Getting myself ready for BOAZ means taking a firm stand on this issue. I cannot somewhat be a wife. Either it’s what I want or what I don’t! The Good Lord did not create me to just be a girlfriend or even worse…an afterthought.?? 2. While I’ve taken years off of dating and/or sex (2 years in graduate school, most of 2013, and all of 2014 come to mind), I did not do so awaiting BOAZ. I did so hiding from more pain and more false love. In essence, those years off did not prepare me for much because I was avoiding living my personal life and keeping my feelings “safe.” Great love, I believe, takes great risk! Awaiting BOAZ is about faith, love, hope, risks, and trusting in GOD to guide us. 1. I was NOT ready for BOAZ! Yes I believe we have to get ready while we await God’s blessings! So that’s where I’m at…getting ready as I await BOAZ. Now I have no clue who he is but I do believe he will feel like my best friend before he feels like my lover. He will speak to my spirit before even speaking to my body. I do not picture BOAZ to be of a certain race. I’m open to God’s plan for me. Though I hope and pray he will be over 6 ft as I love a tall man! My heels! My heels! I live in heels! Guess I’m just making a special request to GOD to make my BOAZ tall. Lol. I’m still a work in progress. I picture my BOAZ to be patient…a man ready to teach me certain things while learning from me. He won’t be into games and will encourage me to follow his lead. He will know where we are headed! He will know I AM HIS ONE and will need no convincing! My BOAZ will be a leader and not a follower unless he’s following the teachings of Jesus! ?? He will support my work ethics and my dreams! He will appreciate the pain and struggles I’ve been through to get myself right for him. Other than that, all that BOAZ can be…only God knows!?? Before I go, I want to give you guys one of the Bible passages about BOAZ from Ruth 2: “Ruth Meets Boaz in the Grain Field Now Naomi had a relative on her husband’s side, a man of standing from the clan of Elimelek, whose name was Boaz. And Ruth the Moabite said to Naomi, “Let me go to the fields and pick up the leftover grain behind anyone in whose eyes I find favor.” Naomi said to her, “Go ahead, my daughter.” So she went out, entered a field and began to glean behind the harvesters. As it turned out, she was working in a field belonging to Boaz, who was from the clan of Elimelek. Just then Boaz arrived from Bethlehem and greeted the harvesters, “The Lord be with you!” “The Lord bless you!” they answered. Boaz asked the overseer of his harvesters, “Who does that young woman belong to?” The overseer replied, “She is the Moabite who came back from Moab with Naomi. She said, ‘Please let me glean and gather among the sheaves behind the harvesters.’ She came into the field and has remained here from morning till now, except for a short rest in the shelter.” So Boaz said to Ruth, “My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with the women who work for me. Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the women. I have told the men not to lay a hand on you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.” At this, she bowed down with her face to the ground. She asked him, “Why have I found such favor in your eyes that you notice me—a foreigner?” Boaz replied, “I’ve been told all about what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband—how you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a people you did not know before. May the Lord repay you for what you have done. May you be richly rewarded by the Lord, the God of Israel, under whose wings you have come to take refuge.” “May I continue to find favor in your eyes, my lord,” she said. “You have put me at ease by speaking kindly to your servant—though I do not have the standing of one of your servants.” At mealtime Boaz said to her, “Come over here. Have some bread and dip it in the wine vinegar.” When she sat down with the harvesters, he offered her some roasted grain. She ate all she wanted and had some left over. As she got up to glean, Boaz gave orders to his men, “Let her gather among the sheaves and don’t reprimand her. Even pull out some stalks for her from the bundles and leave them for her to pick up, and don’t rebuke her.” So Ruth gleaned in the field until evening. Then she threshed the barley she had gathered, and it amounted to about an ephah. She carried it back to town, and her mother-in-law saw how much she had gathered. Ruth also brought out and gave her what she had left over after she had eaten enough. Her mother-in-law asked her, “Where did you glean today? Where did you work? Blessed be the man who took notice of you!” Then Ruth told her mother-in-law about the one at whose place she had been working. “The name of the man I worked with today is Boaz,” she said. “The Lord bless him!” Naomi said to her daughter-in-law. “He has not stopped showing his kindness to the living and the dead.” She added, “That man is our close relative; he is one of our guardian-redeemers.” Then Ruth the Moabite said, “He even said to me, ‘Stay with my workers until they finish harvesting all my grain.’” Naomi said to Ruth her daughter-in-law, “It will be good for you, my daughter, to go with the women who work for him, because in someone else’s field you might be harmed.” So Ruth stayed close to the women of Boaz to glean until the barley and wheat harvests were finished. And she lived with her mother-in-law.“ And so the journey begins…stay tuned~KJM on Throwback Thursday saying I’m super excited about this journey!?
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