Terribly sorry that this is my first blog for the week! I have been having trouble sleeping mixed with long work days. Thus, I could not have wrote a sentence in the last two days even if I wanted to! Now that I am a bit rested…let’s get into today’s discussion! UNHAPPY PEOPLE! Yesterday, BET was to air Gucci and Keyshia’s (I like to call her my cousin since she’s from my island) wedding! Love love love them! As BET advertised and posted Facebook statuses, I could see the hundreds of negative comments coming from some really bitter people. Folks asking where their kids are…like celebrities need to let us into their children’s lives?! Check yourself! Folks (mainly women) stating that they won’t make it because too many people are in their relationship! Um…did any of you just leave either of their beds?! I think not! So stop the madness. The negative comments went on and on. From people saying their relationship isn’t real to others claiming these two people have messy lives! ? I love what I know about them! Keyshia held Gucci down when he was in jail while building her empire! I personally don’t really care what their real story is because they look happy and Gucci ain’t never look better! ? I am happy for them so why are these bitter women hating on folks they don’t even know? This question brought me to what I like to call THE UNHAPPINESS POT! This is the place where people we know AND don’t know…live when they take time of out of their day to spread negativity! I don’t care if you are dating or married…if you have a spouse…your shit ain’t perfect. Criticizing another couple that you know (more like think you know) or don’t know is a sign that your life is all the way messed up! If Gucci and Keyshia got 80 children…it’s none of your business because guess what?! They taking care of theirs! ?? How they run their relationship is up to them! They don’t owe us shit! Just like we don’t owe our friends, families, and associates shit. Everybody got something to say (when nobody asked them) because they are too lazy to do the work in their own relationships! It’s so easy to think you know the recipe for happiness in other people’s lives while leaving your own lawns unattended to! ?? Read that one again! Have you been watering your own lawn so that your grass can be green? I’m guessing these negative Nancy’s on social media don’t have a man or a woman…or if they do…they are in a very toxic situation. Hence them seeping out negativity! How dare anyone doom anyone’s marriage! Grown folks can do what grown folks want to…and from where I’m standing…Gucci and Keyshia ain’t harming nobody, are happy, and ain’t asking y’all for shit!!! So while we are visiting the Unhappiness Pot…take stock of who is in your circle! Some folks subscribe to the Unhappiness Pot…even if they care about you. My number one rule about advice is only give it WHEN ASKED! If nobody asked you, short of physical/sexual abuse occurring, mind your own! Too many of us are wondering about how our neighbors are living but ain’t never considered if we are going to hell too?! If you get nothing else from today’s blog…remember that you are in charge of your own life. You cannot listen to what others say…all the time. When getting unsolicited advice, think of who the messenger is. Do you want to be living how they are? If not, IGNORE THE HATING! Even if you admire their life…take into consideration that no one truly knows what goes on inside another’s life unless they are living it! ?? For all the negative Nancy’s out there, if you focused on your lives more than others…you too may find some happiness! Congrats to Keyshia and Gucci! May the blessings always be abundant! ? ~KJM on Hump Day!