Yesterday, I shared a recent picture (on my private page) of Mama Michael’s. She does not age! ?? Someone asked me what was her secret? Two things that always stand out to me are: (1) never let them see you sweat (especially when your man is stressing you) and (2) never stop pampering yourself. My mother has not had an easy life yet you could never tell by her appearance. Hair and nails are always done. Clothes on point. Body fit. She is a mother of five: three biologically and two adopted. She has never owned “mom clothes” nor did she spend much time worrying about doing what others expected her to do as a mom. She taught me how to make a five dollar shirt look like it was worth five hundred! ?? By far she is not perfect but this is one of the areas that I admire her for. Let’s tackle each motto. (1) NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU SWEAT! I know so many women who let themselves go when their man problems settle in. Too many women are out there chasing a man’s love while the grays are settling in, their waistline is stretching, and they haven’t gotten their hair and nails done in a long while. Walking around like the air has been let out of your tires is not only embarrassing but it also shows that that man or that stress has extreme power over you. In this instance, a woman has forgotten all about herself. Even if you were never the get your hair and nails done type of woman…I’m sure there were things you were doing out of self love for yourself before you met up on that man or that stressful situation. Why have you stopped? What is your mental state like? Do you feel cared for and loved in your current situation? Well no matter the answers to these questions….Mama Michael’s would say that you should still be your number one priority. Once again, if you have depleted all of your resources for others…what is left for you? Are you not better than considering yourself as leftovers? What ever the situation…you need to always make sure you are okay. Put yourself first! Take care of your physical and mental needs without feeling guilty. ?? This will help you to stay forever young. (2) NEVER STOP PAMPERING YOURSELF! We women often complain about men no longer doing things for us that they first did when we first met them. Truth be told, sometimes in the midst of life…we, women, stop dating ourselves too! We stop meeting up with our girlfriends for dinner and trips. We tell ourselves we no longer need that manicure or that hairstyle. We even stop granting ourselves the solo time we need to regroup and refuel. Women are just out there nurturing everyone but themselves! ? No matter what happens in life…keep dating yourselves! Never stop pampering yourselves. Never stop telling yourself that you are worth it! Never stop! ?? ~KJM on Charm School Monday. ? Shout out to the baddest chick in the game from Kingston, JA to NYC,my mama! ??