In the beginning, I was not sure if Meghan Markle and Prince Harry were really dating. I barely saw them together and the tabloids are known for making stuff up! ? Plus, I had no clue who she was. Never watched an episode of “Suits” and frankly am still high off of the last royal wedding that I wasn’t even thinking about a possibility of another one. ? The US is in such a clusterfuck state that following British royalty is a welcomed distraction. My obsession with the royals did not start with Prince Harry and Prince William. Even though I was just a young girl when Princess Diana married and subsequently died…I remember her grace and style. I remember how she touched the world and brought warmth into what looked like an ice cold monarchy. I REMEMBER PRINCESS DIANA! ? Thus, I had to keep up with her boys…always wishing that they find women to marry that have even half of the grace and kindness of their mother. Women of warmth and love. ? Yesterday, when Prince Harry and Meghan officially announced their royal engagement, this dream was solidified!?? Diana, I hope you are proud because I’m down here on earth so emotional and this isn’t my family! The few years you were with your children seems to have left a permanent love stain on their hearts. Your warmth can still be felt!? While I watched with excitement as Kate Middleton married Prince William…I never had the type of joy I currently have when I heard that Harry had found his wife!? And a black woman at that! ?? You feel that Diana?! That Harry of yours was always meant to not follow the beaten path and to excel at life! ? As the world reacted to Harry and Meghan’s engagement, the couple emerged for the first time…publicly “shining bright like a diamond!” ?? But let’s back it up for a moment! Once it was confirmed that they were actually dating, I started to follow their courtship though I missed some things that only brought me great joy upon revelation! Meghan Markle was raised by a beautifully strong black woman! That part I have known for a while but as the media went crazy worldwide yesterday, I learned that Meghan is my age (36) and divorced! ?? This makes her three years older than Harry, more experienced marriage wise (so nobody’s virgin), and can we talk about her most likely mature eggs?! You see the QUEEN approved Meghan and Harry’s engagement! The Queen! Now it’s not because the Queen is white that I’m impressed…that would never impress me! It’s because here in the US a woman being black, divorced, and dating a younger man is taboo! I’m almost sure the stigma is the same in England. At the age of 36, I am always being told that I’m wasting my birthing years and that I don’t have much time to choose a mate and have babies! As if that’s all women are good for! ? Everyday society sends me the message that I’m lucky for whatever man I can get because I am now a woman of a certain age and STILL BLACK and unfavored in America!!! ? But the QUEEN said that Meghan (at her age and with her background) is fit to be a royal and that is fucking amazing! I mean first Serena Williams and now Meghan Markle! Black is timeless and ageless! And not only do black women not have to settle for whatever they can get in life but they are marrying men on their level…even Princes! ?? Yasss lawd! Serena taught me to unapologetically hold out for that man who is on my level and loves me for me while Meghan has given me hope that I am not damaged goods because I am 36, not married, and have no children! ?? I mean I always knew this but to be so publicly reminded of it is fucking amazing! I can unapologetically be the bachelorette I am without wearing a fucking scarlet letting on my chest! ✌? And I don’t have to settle for some ugly out of shape man either! ????? Let the congregation of black women around the world breathe a sigh of relief while saying AMEN! ?? All is not lost. Finding a man ain’t everything but if love is what we want…we (black women) do not have to settle! Cousin Serena and Cousin Meghan sure didn’t! All Hail Our Black Duchess aka Princess to the rest of the world! ?? ~KJM on Temptation Tuesday! Congratulations to Prince Harry and Meghan! Y’all better have a live public wedding broadcasted throughout the world!!! I will be excitedly waiting! ??? EDITOR’S NOTE: I strongly believe in Black Love and hope to find it one day but love is love! I totally support my sistas marrying who loves and treats them the best! It’s not a fairytale because Serena’s husband and Meghan’s fiancé are white. It’s a fucking fairytale because they are strong successful black women who are unapologetically being loved and giving love publicly when society says they should not be allowed to do so! ??