Yesterday evening, I streamed an episode from season 2 of Sex and the City where Carrie was trying to figure out if she goes after the same types of men in relationships. The answer here is YES but I’m going to take it one step further and explore. We, human beings, are attracted to what we are attracted to. Our attractions, generally, are not random. They typically stem from things like our family life, childhood traumas, and other broken relationships. ? I, myself, love going after MUTE (I love a silent man) EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE GUYS! ??♀️ Yum! ? I think it is because for many years I too was emotionally unavailable. Sexy…I know. ? When I bumped into the Ex Factor and saw some of my flaws on his face…I started to work on myself. I no longer celebrated being loved and being incapable of reciprocating love! ??♀️ That is no longer who I am. I am more open and more vulnerable than ever but only when it comes to LOVE!!! Penis alone will never find my ass vulnerable because it is just that un-special to me! ?? But I digress. While watching this episode of Sex and the City, which I think was titled “The Fuck Buddy,” I already knew the answer to Carrie’s question. We all have a type….it is just something we can’t initially help. Humans are creatures of habit. However, if you are ready to start getting serious in the game of love…you have to be aware of your dating mistakes! That’s right! We have to take accountability for going down the same rabbit hole a million times…knowing how the story is going to end. Shit just don’t change UNLESS we change ourselves first! ?? We are the common denominators in our fucked up dating lives or marriages. ? So how do we get it together? First by acknowledging what our types are and secondly by making a decision on whether we are really ready to break away from these types. If you have no children…you can be as dumb as you want because you are only messing yourself up. BUT once children are involved…we have to purposefully evolve into making better dating decisions! So are you ready to break your dating patterns?! I am not sure I am. The Ex Factor is still who I love! While I’m not waiting on him to grow up…I am SLOWLY walking away in case he makes a change for himself that betters us. It definitely helps him that I find most men to be fucking gross once they start speaking. ??♀️ SILENT. MUTE. OH SO SEXY! Yup that’s my type. First six years of dating, the Ex Factor barely spoke. ?? In the last two years, he not only learned how to talk but he now talks back!!! Wtf?!!! Back to mute baby! ?????? ~KJM is missing her type on Temptation Tuesday. A mute man isthe only man I can truly love. ???