Yesterday, I covered “The Marketing Of Ugly Husbands” where I stressed that while attraction isn’t everything…it is something. ?? Why are women being asked to settle for any man that can commit…even if they are not attracted to them?! Men aren’t aiming to have ugly wives. No way! No matter the age, most men are lusting off of the next hot young video vixen chick! But the message being sent to women in the dating world (through marketing), especially once we are in our thirties, is to marry that nice unattractive guy who has a face “only a mother could love” because he can give us the world! ? Once again, I’m going to stress that looks are not everything and attraction is made up of more than just looks. BUT I will say attraction to your mate does matter. It matters to men a lot so why shouldn’t it for women? At the heart of the ugly husband debate is the ancient misogynistic theory that women are only on this earth for male sexual pleasure and reproduction! ??? We aren’t to speak of orgasms…especially when we become mothers! Women are stripped from owning and manifesting into their sexuality…many times from birth! ? For example, there are some cultures around the world who perform female mutilations on babies and young girls!!!!? If you cannot wrap your head around that let me give you a First World example…some women in the generations above me (and some in my generation) still do not believe in the art of masturbation! It’s almost taboo to talk about…the ability to please yourself when your man is not around! ? Well y’all are surely missing out! I started when I was 14 and that kept me focused on school and kept me a virgin until I was almost 19. Not to mention the times masturbation kept me loyal in my relationships…especially my long distance ones. ?? My journey into masturbation felt normal to me….and it was freeing! ?? I am able to bring myself to realms of sexual pleasure in seconds compared to the minutes, hours, days, weeks, and years it takes MOST men to learn our bodies! ?? I AM THE MASTER OF MY SEXUAL DESTINY! Now that’s some powerful shit right there and many men don’t like it…especially Republicans. They want to take away our birth control, our right to choose, and our ability to control our reproductive system while sales of viagra rise. ?✌?We are taught abstinence while they fuck and move where and when they feel. They promote rape culture and even in our pain…women are silenced! ? It’s fucking disgusting! ✌? I am not on this earth only to fulfill the desires of a man. This means I will not lay down with a man focusing only on his sexual pleasure. I will speak up about what feels good to me and what doesn’t! I will say that this is my body and NO you cannot have your way with it. I will moan and lay in my own sexual desires and I will climax with the strength of the sun rising and setting.? My body is daylight and daybreak all in one…for you cannot separate the woman in me from my sexuality! ?? Between my thighs is for me to enjoy FIRST. ?? A man shall get what’s leftover. What I allow him to have…for I am my own sexual peak! ?? So no I won’t just take any husband. I may prefer to take no husband at all! And that is my right as I am the giver of life and I say when it will happen or IF it will happen at all!!! You won’t shame me into years of bad sex, loveless marriages, and unwanted touches. I will immerse as a sexual being at any stage in life. You…society…will not strip me of that! ?? ~KJM on Hump Day. ? May the female orgasm be with you all and may it bring multiples! May your bodies shake from pleasure and may strength be found in that pleasure! ??