Happy Hump Day! ? I am now happy to report that I am getting THE SEX on the regular from my babe after we sat down and talked about our sexual needs and desires! ?? My preference would be to have sex twice a week but with our schedules, once a week is amazing and a miracle in itself! ?? I have heard of married people scheduling sex and never thought much of it but it can be a great tool for singles who are exclusively dating too! Careers and life get in the way whether you have children or not. And sometimes we focus on all different types of communications with our mate but forget that touching each other…especially sexually has its importance. Now I’m not saying sex is the only form of communication but I want to stress that it is important. When the sex stops in a relationship…there’s a great chance communication is down in all other areas and one spouse (if not both) are feeling rejected on some level. My friend, Toi from Toi Time, who is also a blogger, often has married women (of all ages) writing in to her stating that they only have sex with their husbands on his birthday and holidays! ? WTF?! Since I’m not married, I’m just going to leave that one alone. However, if you are exclusively dating, are not waiting to have sex when married (this works for couples on the same page), and are not having the sex…something may be off. For example, I have been cussing the Ex Factor out like crazy over the last year! When I was finally honest with myself…a part of my anger came from the fact that he wasn’t touching me enough. I felt rejected. We recently talked about it and he was really surprised. Turns out, my hectic work schedule along with some things going on with him (not having to do with me) was the culprit. He figured he was being understanding by not insisting we have sex more since I typically work between 60-90 hours a week! ? I am doing much better at not working weekends (though my weekdays are still crazy) and making sure I am not beyond exhausted when it’s time to pleasure him and myself. I have to be an active participant in our sex life too! ?? The Ex Factor never even knew I felt this way because I’m always yelling about something else! I’m definitely working on that! Lol. During our discussion about the sex, we both spoke about a sexual goal we want to achieve with the other person. Meaning how we aim to please the other person more. ?He is already acing his while I still have more studying to do! Lol. We also started to experiment with where we have sex and how we have sex. It’s nice to try new things especially after 7 years of mostly sleeping with only him. I use to think only married people can find themselves in a sexual rut but it can happen to any couple…if communication is off. To get us this far, it took me being vulnerable. Once I did that, he too lowered his guard. I had to say to him that it’s not enough that you feel I’m sexy…I need your touch to reenforce your words…and frequently!?? I am choosing him! I only want him inside of me. I crave only him…so he needs to come get this pussy! ☺️ For any couples dating exclusively, I recommend having this conversation even if you feel your sex life is good. The first two years of dating…the Ex Factor and I had sex 3-5 times a week! ? It was the time I felt most connected to him and my body could not do without having him near. ? While I know that things cannot always stay the same…we should be aiming to maintain a good and healthy sex life! And I need that with how stressful my day job can be at times! Our sex is now more intense and more fulfilling. And he surprises me with when it’s going to actually happen! ? ~KJM on Hump Day! Never underestimate the power of the sex! ??