Yesterday one of my homegirls and I were discussing some dude who would not commit to her. She told me that his Facebook page (which she had not been on in a long time) read like a Yahoo timeline! I, in turn, replied that that’s how sex with him would have probably been! Lol ? She said she doubted it since his foreplay was poppin. I quickly had to remind her that so was Elijah’s…that is until we had the SEX! ? Y’all remember Elijah right?He’s from the “Unexpectedly Backdoored” blog and podcast! If you haven’t listened to that episode…please do! ? Now that we all are caught up…back to the issue at hand. Before sleeping together, our date nights were explosive. Elijah would finger me…any time…any place while whispering nasty sweet nothings in my ear. And I was blown away! It had been years since a man touched me with a form of true intimacy and not just for his own pleasure that I would soon reciprocate. ? Conversation was decent though Elijah would often get too political. ? And I was high at that fact that this man was open to commitment. The way he looked at me…I would blush. I was not in love nor lust but Elijah made it easy to forget the Ex Factor. I explained how I had been in love and severely neglected as Elijah indicated he was up for the challenge. He would hold my hands…even if it was hard to in huge crowds. I was not in love. I was not in lust but I was open. I thought his foreplay indicated what our sex life would be like but boy was I wrong. Great dick size but no fucking clue how to please a woman like me. Prior to me, Elijah said he had been fucking women in their 50s because they gave the best sex. I did not let that story intimidate me for I was more than happy to play the role of PYT (pretty young thang) for Elijah. For once…I was young. Not made to feel old and used up. But what took place the three times we slept together in our 7 months relationship…the foreplay did not indicate. The first and second times were okay. But that third time where he shoved the rabbit (a sex toy) in me and backdoored me roughly without asking my permission first…taught me that foreplay ain’t an indication of shit! In foreplay, Elijah was slow, patient, and in sexual teacher mode. In sex, Elijah was clueless on what to do with a PYT pussy. ??? He was really a waste of a sex partner. No disrespect to him but we should have just left things at foreplay! Ugh! What’s up with all the bad sex I have been having for the last two years?! I remember a time when I use to brag about my sex life…now I shudder to share. One day I will have great sex again with a man who is patient, understanding, respectful, kind, and unselfish in and out of the bedroom. And I will be his in a way I have never been anyone else’s… Until then, remember that foreplay could be telling you a lot about a guy or it could be telling you shit. ? It’s been my experience that when penis is involved…expect the unexpected….while the vagina over here always being cool, calm, collected, strategic, tight, and long lasting! Lol. Pussy Power! ?? ~KJM on Hump Day! Happy humping! ?