The other day I was catching up on my Zane letters when one stuck out to me. A young lady with a troubled past “accidentally” started an affair with a married man. She moved to Atlanta with her child to escape some things occurring in her life. Power to you Sista! Then she was lucky enough to land a job where she worked with a HUNDRED married men, FOUR single men, and very few women. ? That’s when our dear Sista lost her power to have a new beginning. One of the married men approached her and asked her for her number…stating that she “seemed interesting to get to know as a friend.” HOLD UP! I’ve heard that line before from…..SINGLE men! Game got to recognize game! Homey coming at you and he ain’t looking for friendship! You may get left with your draws around your ankles if you aren’t careful so tread lightly! ? Sometimes young women (and men) just don’t know the warning signs. But since I’m a retired pimp (lol) I understand that starting a friendship with a married man (and not his wife) is a recipe for danger at best and an episode of “SNAPPED” at worst. ? I could judge from so many levels but instead I’m going to try to educate our young Sis and women like her. Often times, we wear our pain and insecurities on our sleeves. Predators see this and they aim to capitalize on it. That married man saw our sis’ hurt and decided she would be his next victim! While she may not be totally innocent (cause I’m not sure what conversations I could have with a married man that I did not grow up with as friends and do not know his wife…that would better my life as a single woman), let’s assume our Sis was just lost in a world of pain…in a new city! That married man saw her for the taking. So he dropped that line and sold an immoral friendship. Soon a physical affair ensued and Sis got pregnant…only to find out this man is on his 5th marriage and has 10 outside kids…none from any of his marriages! ??? DAMN! Where’s my machete?! ??? This fool (also 20 years older than our sis) knew exactly what he was doing and now our Sis is fighting for her life with this psycho! I pray she takes Zane’s advice and relocates not leaving a forwarding address! Predators like these are out there by the buckets yet we so often focus on the other woman instead of checking our husbands! He made the vows! That man should be held accountable!!!! But since I’m a single woman…all I can do is guide women. Here’s 5 ways to avoid starting inappropriate conversations with married men! It’s my hope that if the conversation never occurs…neither will a hurtful affair! 5. WHAT CAN A MARRIED MAN DO FOR YOU IN FRIEDSHIP?! Not a got damn thing! Only bring you to hell in a hand basket with his wife in tow! ? I’ve already stated that after the age of around 20, no straight man is actually trying to JUST be our friends. Yes there are exceptions but the rule is more prevalent than anything! This man has a motive and even more importantly, he has a wife!!!! 4. DO I KNOW HIS WIFE?! I do not allowed married men on my private social network that I do not know their wives. Yup! If he steps out of line, I want to know who the fuck to contact! Ain’t nobody got time for him to be in my DMs! I have a lot to tell my maker at those pearly gates and I hope an affair with a married man won’t be one of them! ✌? 3. DOES HIS WIFE APPROVE OF THIS FRIENDSHIP?! Now they could be swingers (couples who invite others into their bedroom) and even then you want to tread lightly before you get T.I. and Tinyed! ?? Make sure you are into that lifestyle. If so, make it a one nighter with a couple you aren’t friends with or barely know…get the experience…and then get the hell out! ✌? Most of the time, however, his wife will probably be uncomfortable with this new found friendship! End of conversation! 2. AVOID TIME ALONE TOGETHER! Sometimes we tell men we aren’t interested and they try to wear us down by spending time with us…to further trick and confuse us. ? Keep things work related (if that is where you met him), never do happy hours or “dates” with this man. If you don’t know him through work…keep a ball park distance away from him! A true pimp has got more than one way to skin a cat…and you are the CAT! Take that fat puss of yours somewhere else…like to a single man’s bed! ?? 1. WATCH OUT FOR EMOTIONAL CHEATING! I am the queen of emotional cheating! Or use to be. RETIRED now. Lol. One of the things Phoenix use to do is provide (emotionally and then sexually) the things my current guy wasn’t. He listened attentively and then he delivered. Only thing different here is this was the job I had given Phoenix since 2004. Most of the time when others are using this game…it’s not consensual. It’s a purposeful mind fuck to seduce you! So no listening to how bad his marriage and/or life is. Tell him to pay a fucking therapist for that! ✌???? ~KJM on Throwback Thursday! These original gangstas and pimps got strong game. They have had more time on this earth and probably more conquests so they know how to make the wounded their prey! Watch out! FYI for the single men…these same rules apply when it comes to married women! Lastly, one of my upcoming blogs will address when you did not know the other person was married….??