Kingston Expressions

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Your Season for Celebration May Be Someone Else’s Season of Suffering

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It’s so easy to get wrapped up in shopping and preparing for Santa/the holiday season especially if you have children. We often talk about giving and usually are referring to giving to complete strangers…which is a beautiful thing! This post, however, is about giving in your inner circle.

First, if you know of anyone who has recently suffered a loss, please try to reach out to them. This can be a death or divorce. Loss can be described in so many ways. You may not be able to heal a broken heart but just a kind word could make a big difference.

Second, some people may have very little family or friends. Please invite them over for your big holiday dinner. Even if they say they want to be alone, insist that they stop in even for an hour. It’s just little things like this that may put a smile on someone’s face.

Third, your season of blessings may be so awesome that you want to shout it to the world! Amen! But please remember that if you just had a baby, having a discussion about your joy with a friend that suffered a miscarriage may not be the thing to do. Be sensitive to your inner circle! People who are going through hurt can be happy for you and still feel their loss deeply. It’s not an “either or” test. Be kind!

Fourth, whatever you do…please do not attempt to give your hurting loved ones advice during your season of celebration and their season of loss. No one knows what it takes to make another human being happy. They have to figure it out for themselves. Just be a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. So suggesting that a newly divorced person should start dating may not be the way to go. People have to do things in their time. I know you think you are helping but suggestions like these come off hurtful. It’s like saying…”hey I don’t think you are doing enough to be happy.“

And lastly, please remember that everyone will have a season of suffering, including you. I’m sure you would want love, kindness, and support during such a difficult time. Thus, give what you would pray to receive in a season of depression, sickness, death, job loss, and over all transition in a time of loss. Never forget that your season of celebration has the ability to uplift others. Use your blessings wisely. ~KJM on Flashback Friday. This time of year is the hardest for me for many reasons…

The Words Get In The Way

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All day long I’ve wanted to say something but the words just wouldn’t come out. If today wasn’t your day, hang on! Tomorrow just might be. Keep the faith!

KJM on Temptation Tuesday

Women Please Be Kind To One Another

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I think women should be kind to one another and not put each other down. Your style may not be my style but I can still appreciate it. Society already pins us against each other as friends, for the attention of men, as businesswomen, and even as mothers! The least we could do is support one another and not judge. So to all the plain janes of the world, I salute you! But respect that I am not one of you. I dress the way I see fit and I never let society tell me it’s too much nor too little based on my gender, age, religion etc. Be easy and remember we get more accomplished building each other up rather than down. Real class is being who you are flawlessly and without saying a negative word to tear someone else down. #messageforayeshacurry #istillgotloveforthecurrys

KJM’s thoughts from last night.

My Confession

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Confession: Sometimes even I am afraid that I’m not done with being degraded and humiliated. I am frightened that I’m not finished with revisiting my painful past. Healing starts off ugly and fearful but at some point we have to take responsibility, hold ourselves accountable, and trust ourselves to pick up the pieces. At some point, we have to believe that we will grow and take steps to do so…

KJM reminiscing on Hump Day

A Woman Can Always Do Better

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If there’s no tree growing in her face, a woman can always get another man!

Mama Michaels on Charm School Monday’s.  Basically means that a woman should never let a breakup make her feel like she can’t do better…can’t find another (and even better) man because she can! Know your worth! Sounds better in Jamaican Patois 🙂

A Meme About Unfucking Yourself (Not My Work)

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What a great meme!

He Was Not There (As Usual)

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I went home that evening thinking he would be there…ready to fight for us….but he wasn’t. In 5 years and 3 months he had never showed up for me so I don’t know why I expected him to do so this time. It was my heart’s last attempt at believing in him. I will never forget the day I lost love, respect, and faith in him. I gave so much of myself to in return receive nothing. That reality still stings…

KJM reminiscing about September and happy I’m no longer that person.

A Meme About The Reflections Of A Man (Not My Work)

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~Unknown. Deep….

Selfies

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If you are going to take selfies with your tongue sticking out…please at least brush your tongue!

Willow on proper selfie etiquette when she’s seeing an influx of these selfies floating in her newsfeed.

The Grinch that Stole the Holidays (A Crash Course on How to Survive the Holidays with Family)

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The holidays are upon us and I just can’t let you eat that first turkey leg (or goat meat for all my West Indians) without giving you some guidance! Here are 10 survival tactics for the holidays (with or without family):

10. Everyone has messed up family! You are not alone! We are all going to be critiqued, criticized, and judged during this very vicious time. I’m 34, not married, and no kids=easy target. Lol.

9. The holiday season can be rough on anyone even if there are no life changes occurring. If you have recently suffered a loss (death, divorce, etc) the first holiday season is particularly harsh. Hang in there and do the best you can. I suggest taking at least 10 minutes of each holiday to do something nice for yourself. Drink your favorite tea, put on your favorite accessory, or go on a mini vacation (if you can afford it). Do something to remind yourself that you are ALIVE and YOU ARE BLESSED! I’m praying for you and your family as you put one foot before the other! Remember to breathe!

8. Being single over the holidays can be painful for some. Count your blessings that you are single and not spending the holidays with someone you know you need to break up with/divorce! Nothing says F the holidays like sitting across from someone you can’t stomach!

7. Not all of us can make it home for the holidays. Last year I was living in Richmond and just could not do that long drive in traffic to Jersey. I called up a fellow Penn Stater (WE ARE!) and asked if I could spend the holiday with her family in Maryland…just two hours from Richmond! It was such a treat! I got to spend the day with my friend, her mom, her baby son, a doggy, and the rest of her family. The Michaels family does not have small babies nor puppies so to wake up with both was an AMAZING feeling! So if you can’t make it home go spend time with a close friend near by!

6. If you have a large loving family and you know you have friends who don’t…please invite them first! You are blessed! Why not share those blessings?!

5. Be easy on yourselves this holiday season! Do the best you can. This is a season to focus on blessings not stress yourself out. Do what you can and just know that God/Your Higher Power will take care of the rest!

4. Tis’ the season for giving but it is also the season for robbing! I suggest giving/donating to charities and non profits who are more equipped to help the less fortunate. Please do not pull money out and give it to strangers on the street! Safety first!

3. If you do not have anywhere to go during the holidays but are fortunate enough where you can volunteer your time at local organizations/charities…I suggest you do! Making someone’s day, even with the tiniest gesture, always brings a smile to my face!

2. Family’s will fight! Mine get on my last nerves during the holidays but thank your stars you have family! Many people will wake up to have no one to celebrate with. You are blessed beyond measure! So even when family pushes your buttons…keep focusing on the blessings!

And 1. They say love comes softly and I believe it! If you haven’t experienced that great love yet (you and I both!) understand that HE IS AN ON TIME GOD! HE is not done with us nor our hearts. Our time is coming and the plans HE has for us will be great. Do not give up hope and keep the faith for a love so great that GOD Himself picked it is worth the wait! Happy Holidays! ~KJM aka the Grinch lol. On behalf of myself and the Michaels family, we wish you and your family continued peace, love, and blessings during this beautiful season!

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