I always tell people to never get too comfortable with me…whether I have known them for 20 minutes or 20 years! The Gemini, by cosmic definition, is always changing. We can be filled with one emotion at a certain time and in the next moment…we feel another emotion…very deeply. Both emotions are real to us. We are not two faced nor fickle! The Gemini is an adventurer who is ever changing. This concept sometimes pisses folks off but if they just realized that respect is essential to the Gemini…they wouldn’t get caught off guard when we hand them their asses when they cross the line! Boundaries are so important to us. I am almost certain we set them from birth! And that’s all the more reason why we do not hesitate to cut off most folks (if not all) that cannot understand our need to be respected. Now to the story that inspired this blog. This past Friday evening I had one hour left at work. I have worked very closely with a group of people for the last two months and this was our final night working together. We were all suppose to grab a drink after work (which I typically do not do with coworkers). Then the asshole moment of the evening occurred. One of the guys in the group cursed at me and told me to mind my fucking business when I (along with the group) were making funny comments about his lack of awareness of others when driving. I was not the only one commenting but I was the only one cursed at! I guess in his eyes, he felt like he was joking, but in my eyes it just didn’t fucking matter! I do not let anyone….especially MEN….curse at me!!! Jesus be fence because I felt like I was about to jump over my desk and smack the shit out of him! I seriously do not play like that! Never have I cursed at him nor given him the indication that we were friends! Only one lady in the group actually has my phone number! I tell folks all the time…I’m friendly (at work…don’t catch me outside of work) but I’m not nice! Only a few people at the table heard his response to me because it all happened so quickly and in the midst of several conversations going on at once. I literally had to leave the room before I exploded! You see I AM A LADY AND I WILL NOT BE SPOKEN TO THAT WAY! I said this to him before I exited the room. With my blood boiling…I went to our front desk and spoke with another coworker about the incident and then… I became calm. Until this blog takes off, I do need my day job…so setting it off at my place of employment would not be a good look! Breathe in! Breathe out! That’s all I could do repeatedly. After a few minutes I returned to the room and then left again because I was still pissed! Now back for the final few minutes of the night…I finished up my work as the others talked excitedly and when the fool was getting up to leave…he did apologize! The only thing I said is I appreciate the apology. But y’all know I wasn’t ready to accept it! You see he hit a nerve! I grew up watching the women in my family get disrespected verbally and physically by their boyfriends and husbands! I always vowed never to be in such a disrespectful situation! That’s why it broke my heart when I cursed the Ex Factor out back in August! In all my dating life, I made sure never to curse at any guy while dating them and made sure the only thing they ever called me was my government name! Now once we break up….it’s all fair game if he is acting a fool!?? But I digress….I just do not want to repeat this ugly cycle! So when a man launches a curse word at me…I lose it! I’m not sure why this coworker found himself so comfortable with me. Point blank…he shouldn’t have! My loyalty is to myself and my well being! I think sometimes folks fall and bump their heads (like in this situation) and other times, we make it easy for people to disrespect us! I simply won’t tolerate it…especially in the work place! Serenity equals respect! Set those boundaries and let people know when they cross them. If you aren’t comfortable voicing it…try not to deal with them again once you notice that they love to serve up disrespect! Life is just too short to have people draining the essence of your being out of you while devaluing you! I know this is easier said than done with friends, lovers, and family but always remember that Serenity equals respect and respect equals peace! There is nothing like a peace of mind! ~KJM on what is now Serenity Sunday?
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