I just spent 7 AMAZING days celebrating my birthday with Harmony in Vegas. This annual vacation became a tradition in 2013. If you aren’t following one of the KJM social networks…please do! I have posted some photos of my vacation. As always, when East meets West…shit gets crazy. The first topic we tackled was “The Sleeping Penetration” aka the bad sex I had with the Ex Factor over a week ago. According to Harmony, consensual sex is like pizza….“any pizza is better than no pizza…thus any consensual sex is better than none.” ? I stared down at my very unsatisfied vagina and questioned Harmony’s theory. Bad sex is still good sex?! I just don’t know about that. To Harmony’s defense, she is able to easily climax (I am so jealous) while I have legitimately not seen my Big O since May 2010 when Phoenix summoned it after us not seeing each other since 2004! I still remember that birthday sex! ? The energy he put into it…was nothing short of a miracle. That’s why I call him my doctor….only thing he cannot heal is a broken heart! Anything else….Phoenix rising got me…legs over my head begging for mercy. ? So for women like me…where vaginal orgasms are scarce (unless I’m getting myself off)….it’s hard to believe that bad sex is better than no sex! ? But if I were Harmony….I could see how that theory could work. While I was in Vegas, I watched the Magic Mike Live show (A MUST SEE) and Zumanity, a sexual Cirque du Soleil. Both shows taught me something…I’ve become a lazy lover too. I mean not as bad as the Ex Factor….because I’m still considering his sexual desires while he completely ignores mine but…I have not yearned for him in years. I don’t surprise him anymore….have sex with him any time and any place…and even though I will occasional wear a nice lingerie set….that’s really more for me than him! ? As a matter of fact, I’m probably on Mars most of the time when we have sex. (Still better than when I use to black out during sex with Julio at the end of us seeing each other! ???) Mind was just somewhere else but since he will always get off…I never felt guilty about barely being present during sex. Since, I don’t get off…I get very frustrated at his sexual performance!? With that being said….is bad sex better than no sex? I really have no clue. Each person will have a different answer. Sex seems to become a chore for me in my longest situations like Julio and the Ex Factor while it was always fun and exciting with Crazy and Phoenix. One thing I can say about Crazy and Phoenix is…they took their time studying me. If at any point I’ve been a great lover…it’s from both of them teaching me things. Crazy introduced me to the Big O and multiple orgasms (wonder if I will ever experience either of them ever again) while teaching me to be assertive. Phoenix taught me how to ask for my deepest nastiest desires while showing me that it was okay to receive them! ? I was never in love with Crazy nor Phoenix but there was an intellectual, sexual, and dare I say it…spiritual connection between me and them. They got me on all levels except matters of the heart. So my Big O does not have to be tied to love (I use to think it was until it became apparent who I was in love with and who I was not) but it does have to be tied to someone who cares enough to take me there. Neither Julio nor the Ex Factor cared to. I remember Julio getting so frustrated with me that he could never give me an orgasm. ✌?However, he was not trying to please me….he was chastising me. ? The Ex Factor, on the other hand, has probably never given my lack of orgasms any thought because he was always getting his. ? And over time, as a result, I’ve become a lazy lover too…doing the bare minimum to get the chore done! ? I miss the excitement of sex but even with all the guys I met while in Vegas…I decided random sex wasn’t going to quench my thirst. I needed my doctor (Phoenix) but am very serious about not going down that path again. (I haven’t seen him since September 2014). You must get me intellectually and bring me into a realm on sexual consciousness that I’m just not sure exists anymore. Still…Harmony’s words haunted me. “Sex is like pizza. Any pizza is better than no pizza and even bad pizza is good pizza.” Of course, I probably should have mentioned at the beginning of this blog that pizza is my least favorite food…. ??? ~KJM on Throwback Thursday. Is bad sex better than no sex at all? Is bad sex still good sex because sex occurred? Editor’s note: Elijah is on the worst sex ever list! My asshole is still healing. Nothing about him nor the rabbit was great! ✌?
